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What is Discipline?
Discipline is Teaching and Training.
What are the goals of discipline?
- To encourage appropriate behavior
- To help problems from arising as your child grows older
- To instill a lifelong sense of self-discipline
Basic principles of discipline:
- Be a good listener
- Speak kindly, quietly and on the child's level.
- Identify what is important and emphasize it.
- Identify what is unimportant and forget it.
- Childproof your environment.
- Identify limits that are appropriate and necessary. Once you establish these limits, they should be clearly defined and consistently maintained.
- Give suggestions or directions in a positive, specific form.
- Give your child a choice only when you are prepared to accept your child's decision.
- Acknowledge your child's reaction.
- Acknowledge your own feelings.
- Try to understand and deal with the cause of your child's behavior.
- Avoid making comparisons between one child and another or encouraging competition.
- Avoid giving empty threats. They become meaningless.
- Understand that your child will begin to think, feel and behave (identify with) significant people in their lives.
- In some situations, "I" messages may be better than "you" messages.
A Child's Viewpoint of Discipline:
- Set limits for me. I know quite well that I ought not have all I ask for. I am only testing you.
- Be firm with me. I prefer it; it makes me feel more secure.
- Help me form good habits. I have to rely on you to detect bad habits and learn good habits in my early stages.
- Let me experience consequences. I need to learn the painful way sometimes.
- If I say, "I hate you", it isn't you I hate, but your power to thwart me.
- Give me attention for my positive behavior, praise me - that way I learn good behaviors.
- Be consistent. Inconsistency confuses me and makes me loose faith in you.
- Remember how quickly I am growing up. It must be hard for you to keep up with me, but please try.
- Remember that I love to experiment. I couldn't get on and learn about my world, so please put up with it.
- Remember that I thrive on lots of understanding and love, but I don't have to tell you, do I?